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If you were to ask me which skill I’ve developed in the past five years has been the most beneficial to my daily life, I’d likely interrupt you.

“What would is the most useful skill you’ve developed in the past five — ”

“ — meditation. Definitely meditation.”

And it’s true. Mindfulness meditation, more than any other technique, coping mechanism, or practice has helped me manage the fidget spinner in my mind. As someone diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and treated (aka heavily medicated with powerful narcotics), I believe that Mindfulness Meditation should be utilized as a treatment for…

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Remember the annual family newsletter?

From about the time I was seven or eight years old, I was in charge of writing my family’s annual holiday newsletter — a job I would put on my resume today if others took it as seriously as I did.

In this snail-mailed update, the newsletter usually followed a familiar recipe;

  • greetings intro blurb
  • family update paragraph
  • dad paragraph
  • mom paragraph
  • older brother paragraph
  • my own paragraph
  • a conclusion

I aimed to keep it short enough to only use the front of one sheet of paper — a practice that I feel has enhanced…

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They don’t know you, but you know you.

One of the reasons why most lifestyle enhancement plans and products fail is that they were not designed with you in mind. These influencers and plan developers don’t know you. They have no clue about what lifestyle changes would be sustainable for you. They don’t know what activities you hate doing and which you enjoy. But do you know who does know? You do, that’s who!

What do you enjoy doing?

To design a growth-oriented lifestyle tailored to your specifications, the process itself must be enjoyable — or at the least, potentially enjoyable.

Step 1. Jot Down What You Like to Do

Bring to mind…

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How are you determining what is enough for you?

Most of us are probably familiar with the “rock bottom” scene from 1979’s comedy classic, “The Jerk.” If you’re not, Steve Martin’s character, Navin Johnson, has lost all of his wealth and his relationship with love interest Maria (played by Bernadette Peters) is on the rocks. In an attempt to prove that he hasn’t quite hit rock bottom, he walks out of his mansion, only taking “all I need.” As he scoots out of the house in his bathrobe, pants around his ankles, he grabs random items as he passes them…

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Take a look before you close the book.

Though we’d all love to shelf 2020 (or run it through the shredder), there’s no denying that we all learned a lot about ourselves throughout the year. It would be a shame to call 2020 an absolute waste — especially since it had so many lessons to impart. Yes, most of these lessons are how not to do certain things, but also how to lean into the storm of life to keep it from completely knocking is down.

For some, the lessons they learned and skills developed were how to cope with…

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Disclaimer: I mostly wrote this article to myself, but felt that it may be helpful to others.

The Scattered-Focus Life

With information and global networking more attainable than ever, there’s no reason why, with a little focused effort, any of us can’t become world-class specialists in our craft. From graphic designers, developers, writers, videographers, and photographers to business managers, financial professionals, and educators, with the proper focus, we can continue to sharpen our craft every day. But many of us choose not to. Why? Because we prefer the easier, scatterbrained life.

Multi-tasking vs. Fragment Focus

Yes, listening to a podcast…

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Even after we’ve grown up, we still believe in superheroes.

The “work hard, play hard” mentality has convinced a generation of “wantrepreneurs” that hard work, long hours, and a swiss-army-knife-array of lifehacks are the key to success. Those who can endure such grueling schedules are not only seen as more than successful — they’re superhuman.

An obsession with the lifestyles of high-achieving entrepreneurs and personalities has led many to fixate on a popular hustle metric: what time you get up in the morning.

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The Shows That Define Generations

Every era of television programming defines a generation’s humor, but also contains many life lessons between the punchlines. I Love Lucy. The Andy Griffith Show. The Beverly Hillbillies. Cheers. Family Matters. The Fresh Prince of Bel-Aire. The Simpsons. Seinfeld. The list goes on.

There exists one especially wisdom-rich piece of television that has as much to teach about ethics as it does about humor, and that’s the Canadian-born TV series Letterkenny.

The show’s premise is simply stated by its opening text:

“There is a small town of 5000 in midwestern Ontario called Letterkenny. …

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There are few things more liberating than kicking off your kicks in the backyard and letting the piggies roam the grass. However, if you look at an old person’s shoes in the developed world, they’re more akin to a medical device. This is odd because when you look to cultures that have maintained connections to their past, they can walk in the most minimalist of sandals, if not barefoot, for miles and miles. What gives? A possible cause: we’ve been babying our feet our entire lives with modern, thick-soled shoes.

Have you ever seen an x-ray or diagram of the…

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Lockdown has forced a lot of people to start thinking inwardly. For me, it has resulted in figuring out ways, teeny tiny ways, I can gradually improve my own health. In addition to intermittent fasting, going barefoot whenever possible, and opting for the floor over the sofa, I’ve also seen the light when it comes to suspenders vs. belts.

In addition to keeping my kishkes unsquished, wearing suspenders has dramatically improved my posture in a way I didn’t fully understand until recently.

A Downside Becomes An Upside

For the most part, choosing to keep my pants up with suspenders instead of belts has been nothing…

Ken Lane

Intentional living writer by night. Marketing writer by day. Well-fed husband. “Fun” dad. Aspiring mensch. Recovering musician. Jump rope advocate. Meditator.

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